Accountability Coach vs. Partner: Which Works Better?

Emily Moss • September 16, 2024
You Need Real Accountability.
Why You Need a Coach, Not a Buddy.
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I’ve always dreamed of being much more than I am. More organized, more disciplined, more loving, more healthy... much more of the “much moreness,” if you know what I mean. Every January, I set out on a new self-improvement plan. The truth is, I really do want to change. But as the saying goes, "There’s a thin woman inside me just struggling to get out — unfortunately, I can usually sedate her with four or five cupcakes."


While funny, it’s more true than false; am I right?


Working toward these goals has left me with wilted kale, an unopened package of chia seeds — remind me, what was I supposed to do with those? A half-empty vitamin bottle, slightly worn running sneakers, and enough protein powder to feed a small third-world country. Not to mention the unused gym memberships.

Does this sound like you too?

Maybe, like me, you’ve found that most of your good intentions have had little to no effect on your daily life. Instead, they add shame, guilt, and a feeling of failure. You find yourself continually striving but never thriving, hoping you’ll magically wake up with the motivation to resist the donuts at the office or take a 30-minute walk in the neighborhood. But, sadly, you wake up to realize you’re not as far as you hoped or feeling like you’re right back to where you started.


The fact is, it was one of those discouraging moments that prompted me to create Nutrition Coaching 365.


I was Fat & Fifty. It was TIME. The problem wasn’t in knowing what to do — the problem was in doing it. How was I going to actually hold myself accountable to the goals I wanted to achieve?

Broken Promises to Yourself?
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I can’t tell you how many times I made promises to myself only to break every single one of them. “This week, no desserts,” or “I’m going to walk every night this week after dinner.” But instead, I’d feel guilt day after day for not following through.


If a friend asked me to walk after dinner or challenged me not to eat desserts all week, I could certainly rise to the occasion. But left to my own attempts? Epic fail.

That’s when I realized I needed accountability. Someone to help me, because I clearly couldn’t do it alone.


Why an Accountability Partner Didn’t Work

The logical choice? Call in my husband, my accountability partner. He knows my triggers, my goals, and was frankly sick of hearing me complain about my jeans being tight or my stomach rolls. Not to mention the “hands-off” approach in the bedroom because I hated how I looked and felt in my own skin!


But accountability with my husband didn’t work. He either came off like a drill sergeant or caved like a puppy dog. My Tuesday-night cries for ice cream were either met with a stern “No, you told me your goal was to lose weight,” or he’d eventually give in and go pick up the pint of Cherry Garcia just to shut me up.


Next, I thought maybe a girlfriend could be my accountability partner. Maybe someone healthier than me who’d keep me on the straight and narrow, or a friend who also wanted to lose weight so we could help each other. Wrong. Neither worked!


With my healthy friend, I felt like a failure when she’d stop eating halfway through a meal and didn’t get how hard it was for me.


With my friend who also wanted to lose weight, we gave each other too many passes. “She’ll never know if I eat this cookie,” or “We’re both too tired to work out.”


Why an Accountability Coach Is the Solution

That’s when I realized I needed a guide, an accountability coach. Someone who has been where I am and overcome the battle, lost the weight, and kept it off. Someone who could be an on-call accountability concierge (if that’s a thing).


I learned that accountability works best when it comes from an outsider. I tried checking in with a friend about healthy eating or working out with a trainer, but none of those worked in the long run because... it’s not their job.


My husband’s job is to be my husband, and my friend’s job is to support me — which sometimes means agreeing to “take a break” when I don’t feel like sticking to my goals.


That’s exactly why I created Nutrition Coaching 365, to provide the accountability you need with on-the-go guidance and emotional support. I’ll help you reach your weight loss and wellness goals with success plans for eating, moving, and living.


Why Nutrition Coaching 365 Works

Nutrition Coaching 365 works because I’m a qualified nutrition expert, and holding you accountable is my full-time job. I’ve invested time and resources to get the education &  training needed to understand the triggers that interfere with your success. I’ve developed pathways to get you back on track, and I offer quick and easy feedback so you never feel overwhelmed.


I’m not your spouse or best friend, so I won’t cave in or give you a pass when it matters most. I’ll give you grace when your body needs rest but hold you accountable to the goals you want to achieve.


You’ll get help creating healthy habits, including personalized meal ideas that fit your lifestyle and eating preferences. Real food that’s simple to make and tastes good.


Accountability At Your Fingertips

At Nutrition Coaching 365, you’ll receive nutrition coaching with accountability right at your fingertips. We’ll text, check in, and make sure you stay on track without feeling distracted or overwhelmed.


This is real life. Even with the perfect plan, things happen. That’s where I come in. I’ll help you stick to your commitment and reach your goals — whether it’s meal ideas, grocery lists, or even those nights when the pan of brownies seems to call your name.


Don’t go it alone. Nutrition Coaching 365 was created just for you because I’ve been exactly where you are, and I’m ready to help you become something more.


Ready to Get Started?

If you’re feeling stuck, tired of taking one step forward and two steps back, or ready to stop learning the same lessons over and over again, I invite you to join me for personal, one-on-one accountability with Nutrition Coaching 365.


I've worked with hundreds & hundreds of women - ages 22-78 - with all kinds of lives - college students, career gals, newlyweds, moms, travel buffs, empty nesters, & retirees What are you waiting for?


Shoot me an email at emily@nutritioncoaching365.com and let’s make this your year — the year you choose yourself.

emily moss of thrivyest lifestyle fitness and accountability coaching for women
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I love encouraging + inspiring others to reach their healthiest lives through food, fitness + gratitude. As a holistic nutritionist + the founder of Thrivyest, I am passionate about creating habits to help you to live longer + thrive. To thrive in body, mind + soul through personalized, simple + practical steps ensuring you gain more energy, clarity + confidence!  Let's connect!


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