Wine at 7 PM, Regret by 7 AM: How That 'Relaxing' Drink Impacts Stress and Weight Loss

Emily Moss • October 10, 2024

I'm Not Going to Sugar Coat This

Look, it’s not my job to tell you what to do. But as a nutritionist and weight loss coach, it is my job to educate. I'm here to share the facts, practical tips, and science-backed advice to help you make the best decisions for your health. And if we’re being real, that nightly glass of wine might be quietly undoing all the hard work you’re putting into feeling and looking your best. So let’s get into it—no fluff, just real talk about how wine is impacting your stress and weight goals.


Wine and Stress:
A Quick Fix or a Slow Burn?

Let’s get straight to the point: wine might make you feel relaxed in the moment, but it isn’t solving your stress. That glass (or two) may help you unwind temporarily, but over time, it could actually be worsening your stress levels. Here’s why:


When you drink, alcohol interacts with your central nervous system and releases feel-good chemicals, giving you a short-lived calm. But the body sees alcohol as a toxin, and it goes into overdrive to metabolize it, impacting sleep quality and disrupting stress hormones like cortisol. The more you rely on that nightly drink, the less effective it becomes, and soon, you’re back to square one—feeling stressed again by the next evening, or worse, adding anxiety to the mix.


Think about it like this: you’re essentially putting a Band-Aid on a cut that needs stitches. It might cover it up for a while, but it’s not addressing the root problem. And the more you “need” that glass to relax, the more it’s holding you in this loop.


Weight Loss and Wine: The Hidden Saboteur

If you’re working toward weight loss goals, alcohol (yes, even wine) could be slowing you down. Wine isn’t just “a few harmless calories.” Those empty calories don’t provide nutrients, but they do pile up fast. Your body prioritizes metabolizing alcohol over burning fat, which means that glass is not only adding calories but also putting a temporary hold on your fat-burning efforts.


Real-Life Example: Let’s say you’re trying to keep your daily calories around 1,500 for weight loss. A couple of glasses of wine could easily add 250-300 calories without adding any nutritional value. You might think, “It’s just one glass,” but over time, those nightly drinks can significantly impact your weight loss progress.


Many  of my clients who cut back on wine or save it for special occasions notice faster progress in their weight and fitness goals. It’s not about depriving yourself; it’s about choosing when it’s worth it and when it’s not.


The “Wine to Unwind” Habit: Real Life in Action

We’re all juggling a lot these days—work, family, personal goals—and for many, wine has become a symbol of “me-time” after a long day. It’s easy to pour a glass without even thinking. But here’s the deal: that habit can become a trap.


Meet my client, Michelle, a working mom who feels stretched thin. Her evening glass of wine is her reward, her way of decompressing after a hectic day. But over time, she notices that one glass has turned into two or three, especially on rough days. What started as a way to relax is now something she “needs” to feel okay—and it’s impacting her sleep, energy, and weight loss efforts.


This cycle of “wine to unwind” is common, but it’s a slippery slope. If you’re pouring out of habit, not out of true enjoyment, it’s time to take a step back and ask yourself if it’s really helping you.


How to Break the Cycle:
Mindful Drinking, Not Mindless Drinking

If you’re not ready to give up wine completely, here are some simple steps to make sure it’s something you enjoy intentionally rather than out of habit:

  1. Pause and Reflect: Next time you reach for that glass, ask yourself, “Am I drinking this because I want it, or because it’s routine?” Breaking that automatic response is half the battle.
  2. Set a Limit: Decide on how many days you’ll drink each week and stick to it. If weight loss or stress management is your goal, limiting alcohol to once a week or just on special occasions can make a big difference.
  3. Know Your Triggers: If you’re pouring a drink every time you feel stressed, recognize this as a cue to try something new. Substitute a glass of wine with a relaxing ritual that doesn’t disrupt your health goals.
  4. Choose Low-Calorie Options: When you do drink, choose a lighter option—like a spritzer or a low-calorie mixer—to cut down on excess calories.
  5. Drink Mindfully: Instead of sipping through a stressful conversation or scrolling your phone, savor that drink. Make it something you truly enjoy, not something you barely notice.


Mindful drinking is about making choices that serve your goals without feeling restricted.


What to Do Instead of Reaching for Wine: Healthier Ways to De-Stress

Part of breaking the cycle is having other tools to rely on when stress kicks in. Here are a few ideas:

  • Get Moving: Even a quick walk or a 10-minute workout can boost endorphins and reduce stress, often more effectively than a glass of wine.
  • Practice Mindfulness: Journaling, meditating, or even deep breathing can help you process and release stress in a lasting way.
  • Reach Out: Call or text a friend, talk to your partner, or find someone to connect with. Emotional support is a powerful antidote to stress.


Alternative Idea: Instead of wine, consider a warm cup of tea or a fizzy, non-alcoholic drink to unwind at night. Little swaps like these can help you create a new ritual that truly supports your goals.


Wine Isn’t the Villain, But It’s Not the Hero Either

If wine has become your go-to for stress relief, it might be worth reconsidering. Breaking the habit doesn’t mean you can never enjoy wine again; it means you get to decide when and how it fits into your life in a way that aligns with your health, stress, and weight goals.


Remember, managing stress is about finding long-term solutions that nourish you—not habits that hold you back. By choosing other ways to unwind, you’re reclaiming control and investing in yourself.


So here’s to putting down the wine glass and picking up something that truly fills you up, body and soul.


If you’re Concerned About Your Relationship with Alcohol

If you’re feeling like alcohol has taken a bigger role in your life than you’d like, know you’re not alone, and there’s help available. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend, counselor, or even a helpline like the National Helpline (1-800-662-HELP) for confidential support and resources.


emily moss of thrivyest lifestyle fitness and accountability coaching for women
welcome text

YOU ARE CAPABLE OF LIVING YOUR HEALTHIEST & HAPPIEST LIFE.


If you’re looking to create healthy habits to gain more energy, improve your sleep  + shed a few pounds, you’ve landed in the right place.

Let's Connect

Recent Posts

healthy food is not the same as weigh- loss friendly food
By Emily Moss March 31, 2025
Why Portion Sizes on Packages and Recipes Don’t Work for You—and What to Do Instead You’ve tried eating “clean.” You’ve followed influencer recipes. You’ve stuck to the portion sizes on the box. So why are you still not losing weight? If you’re a woman over 45, you’re not imagining it. What worked in your 30s doesn’t work now. Your body’s changed—thanks to hormones, stress, sleep, and a naturally slowing metabolism. And no, there is nothing wrong with you! You’ve just been following advice that wasn’t made for you. In this post, you’ll learn how to: Accurately determine your daily calories and protein Decode food labels and misleading recipe portions Portion your meals for real fat loss Apply a dead-simple “high-protein test” to any food or recipe Build awareness without obsessing or restricting This is real-world nutrition for real women over 45 📦 STEP 1: Why "Serving Sizes" on Packages Are Misleading Food labels are meant to standardize, not personalize. The serving size on the box? That’s based on what the average consumer eats—not what you need for fat loss. Here’s what you need to know: A “serving” is usually determined by marketing or FDA regulation—not health needs Some serving sizes are laughably small (looking at you, cereal and granola) What you need depends on your body size, activity, and goals 🧠 Real talk: If you're trusting the label or recipe to control your portions, you're outsourcing your results to a marketing team. 🔍 STEP 2: Learn to Read Nutrition Labels for Fat Loss (Without the Overwhelm) You don’t need to become a dietitian—you just need to know what matters. What to focus on: Serving Size in grams – Not cups or handfuls. Use a food scale. Calories per Serving – Is that for 100g or 25g? Watch carefully. Protein in grams – This is key. You need 30–35g per meal minimum. Starchy vs Non-Starchy Carbs – These aren’t the same. (More below.) Ingredients – Look for protein-rich items first, not oil or sugar. ✅ STEP 3: How to Tell If a Food or Recipe Is Actually High Protein Here’s a simple test that works every time: 🔎 The High-Protein Test Take the grams of protein and add a zero . If the calories are equal to or less than that number , it passes. 📌 Examples: 30g protein → Add a zero → 300 If the meal has 300 calories or less , it’s high protein If it has 450 calories? It’s not protein-dominant—it’s just a food with some protein Use this test on: Frozen meals Cooked recipes Packaged foods Leftovers ✅ Use this to quickly spot meals that support fat loss—not just “look” healthy. 🧮 STEP 4: How to Find Your Calorie & Protein Targets (Simple Math) Forget apps that confuse you. Here’s a realistic way to set your daily targets: 🔹 Daily Calories for Fat Loss 👉 Goal weight × 10 Want to weigh 140 lbs? → Eat around 1,400 calories/day Goal is 160? → Around 1,600 calories/day 🔹 Daily Protein 👉 Goal body weight × 0.8–1.0 Goal is 180 lbs? Aim for 145–180g protein/day This sets you up for: Lean muscle retention Fewer cravings Better fat loss results (especially after 45) 📌 Important: Prioritize hitting your protein target daily, even if your calories vary slightly. 🍽️ STEP 5: Portion Your Meals Based on You—Not the Label or the Recipe This is where most women overeat without realizing it . Let’s say a pasta bake recipe says “serves 6.” But is that 6 servings for a 220-pound man trying to bulk... or for a 145-pound woman trying to lean out? Here's how to fix it: Enter the full recipe (in grams) into MyFitnessPal or Cronometer Check the total calories and protein Weigh the cooked dish in grams Divide the total weight into servings based on your calorie/protein needs 📌 Example: You need 450 calories and 35g protein per meal. Recipe total: 1,800 calories, 140g protein, weighs 1,200g. → Your serving = 300g No guessing. No scale anxiety. Just results. 🥗 STEP 6: Build Your Plate the Right Way (What to Measure and Why) ✅ The Fat Loss Plate Framework Animal Protein (4–6 oz cooked) Chicken, turkey, lean beef, fish, eggs Must hit ~30–35g protein per meal Non-Starchy, Fiber-Filled Veggies (150–300g) Broccoli, cauliflower, zucchini, mushrooms, leafy greens Add bulk and fullness with almost zero calories Starchy Carbs (75–125g cooked) Rice, potatoes, lentils, beans, oats Energy source—but easily overdone without measuring 🛑 Skip the “add healthy fats” advice. You're already getting enough from oils, dressings, and meat. Adding avocado or nuts “just because” leads to stealth calorie overload. ⚖️ STEP 7: Ditch the Cups & Spoons—Use a Digital Scale You don’t need to measure forever, but you do need a short period of accuracy. Why grams > eyeballs: A “cup of rice” can vary by 50–70 calories depending on scoop A “tablespoon” of olive oil can be 10g or 18g (that’s a 70-cal swing!) Grams are consistent, cups are not Use a kitchen scale for 1–2 weeks to calibrate your food awareness. You’ll be amazed how quickly you internalize what 125g of rice or 150g of veggies really looks like. 🧠 STEP 8: Know the Difference Between Starchy and Non-Starchy Carbs Carbs aren’t the enemy—but you need to know what kind you’re eating. 🍠 Starchy Carbs (Measure & Track) Potatoes Rice Pasta Beans Oats Quinoa 📏 Measure: 75–125g cooked (depending on your goal) 🥦 Non-Starchy Carbs (Eat More, Worry Less) Zucchini Broccoli Cabbage Mushrooms Cauliflower Leafy greens 📏 Measure: 150–300g cooked/raw They bulk your meals without breaking your calorie budget. 🚫 Common Mistakes Women Over 45 Make With Portion Sizes Avoid these to accelerate your results: ❌ Trusting the label or recipe blindly ❌ Skipping protein or thinking 12g is “high” ❌ Pouring oils without measuring ❌ Confusing “healthy” with “fat-loss-friendly” ❌ Using volume (cups) instead of grams ❌ Not weighing cooked vs raw (especially animal protein) 📌 Cooking tip: Always weigh animal protein after cooking for accuracy in ounces. 🧭 STEP 9: Use Tracking as a Temporary Awareness Tool (Not a Diet Sentence) You don’t need to track forever—but you do need a clear picture of what you're really eating. Track for 1–2 weeks to: Understand portion sizes Identify hidden calorie bombs Build a roster of go-to meals that hit your goals Stop second-guessing your plate 🎯 Pro tip: Save high-protein, goal-aligned meals in your tracker for easy logging and repeat use. 💼 Why This Matters More With Aging As you age, your: Calorie needs decrease Protein needs increase Muscle loss risk goes up Metabolism slows down “Portion wiggle room” shrinks But the solution isn’t starving. It’s precision with freedom . You don’t have to eat boring food or go low-carb. You just need to eat the right amounts of the right foods for your goals. ✅ Recap: What Portion Size Should You Eat? Let’s make it simple:
cookbook and recipes
By Emily Moss March 31, 2025
Fat Loss for Women Over 45 Who Feel Like Nothing’s Working
Jennifer Coolidge White Lotus
By Emily Moss March 24, 2025
Struggling with confidence, weight gain, or feeling stuck after 45? This blog breaks down what The White Lotus and March Madness surprisingly reveal about midlife mindset — and offers simple, practical shifts you can start today to feel more like yourself again.
shop our plans text
healthy clean eating plans from thrivyest
Learn More

meet emily moss of thrivyest accountability coach

Meet Emily

I love encouraging + inspiring others to reach their healthiest lives through food, fitness + gratitude. As a holistic nutritionist + the founder of Thrivyest, I am passionate about creating habits to help you to live longer + thrive. To thrive in body, mind + soul through personalized, simple + practical steps ensuring you gain more energy, clarity + confidence!  Let's connect!


"The difference between where you are and where you want to be is what you do"    Bill Phillips


3 day clean eating guide - thrivyest
Get Our Easy 3 Day Clean Eating Guide...